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Thinking Slimmer

Drop Two Dress sizes for Summer – giveaway

Am I the only one who was surprised by the sudden burst of hot weather?  It always seems to sneak up on me.  One minute we are hiding under as many layers of blankets as possible and then suddenly Bam! It’s Summer and baring all is the latest thing.

I am much better prepared this year though.  I am back to my Thinking Slimmer programme, listening to my Slimpod each night and writing down my positives.  Since I found this programme a couple of years ago it is the only way that I will ever choose to lose weight.

Life is too short for dieting.  Yes I want to look good for summer and I will, but I want to have fun while I do it and not stress about what i am eating and how it fits in with the children and my life.  So the nightly whispers from my Slimpod are helping me to choose healthy food and to move my body more each day.  It’s slower than other weight loss methods that I have tried but it is so much more sustainable and less of a hassle to fit in with my family.

Slowly but surely, I think and I get slimmer. It’s fun and it works!

If you would like to try the Slimpod method of losing weight, now is your chance.

Please fill in the Rafflecopter below and you could win your own Drop 2 Dress sizes Slimpod, worth £29.99, which is the pod responsible for the results that you can  see.

There are 10 more chances to win a Slimpod this week – all on different blogs  –  check out the list of competitions at the Slimpod Treasure Hunt page

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Younique Cosmetics has arrived in the UK – join us?

Younique Cosmetics is an American MLM business which launched in the UK on October 1st 2014.   I have joined the company and you can see my website here:



This is not the first time that I received advance notice of a new MLM company coming to the UK.  Normally I am wooed by a plethora of American sales reps who think that I am the gateway to all the UK mums who want to work, and promise me untold riches if I sign up with them.

I have turned down quite a few such opportunities, because quite frankly, I have been in MLM before and I know the amount of work needed to invest in building a downline, and I also know that you really need to love the products before you even begin, and love the sales techniques they feed you.

I have seen several of my contacts embrace these opportunities at the start and go on to build a substantial business in no time, because it always pays to be in at the beginning with MLM. But for me the time and the products just weren’t right before.

But Younique Cosmetics has turned my head, and this time I have gone for it.

I don’t wear a huge amount of make up.  But the make up I do wear has been mineral makeup exclusively for the last few years, because it suits my skin, stays on nicely and doesn’t cause itchiness or rashes.  I discovered bareminerals a few years ago, which is hugely expensive, but made such a difference to me, and I also love the cheaper but still lovely Body Shop minerals brand.

So, to start off with, I love the basic idea of what Younique have to sell, and even though I haven’t tried it yet, I can see from the range that I am just going to love it.

The packaging is gorgeous, the colours are lovely, and I love the idea that I can receive a starter pack containing lots of different colours for just £69 – when I look and see what I can get on bareminerals site for that money I know that I am in the money before I make a single sale.

I have read some reviews of the Younique products and I am convinced that this is something that women in the UK will embrace with open arms:

The idea that I can try out the new colours in my home without having to go into a shop and deal with a pushy sales rep is enough to convince me – i am investing in this starter pack because I would love to have that much mineral make up for £69. Once I know what colours I like, I will be able to order my make up online and pay wholesale prices.  I might even start wearing it more…

The second thing that has convinced me is the mission statement of the company


Our mission is to uplift, empower, validate, and ultimately build self-esteem in women around the world through high-quality products that encourage both inner and outer beauty and spiritual enlightenment while also providing opportunities for personal growth and financial reward.

I think that is really lovely – a small amount of make up can do wonders for self esteem, and while I am not of the orange faced “can’t leave the house without it” brigade, i can still see how having a regular supply of a make up brand i trust could do me good, and how i could persuade others to try it too.

The final thing which has convinced me is that Younique encourages its presenters to sell online.  They are suggesting that I can take pictures of myself wearing the make up and everyone will buy from me online.  Now, I wasn’t born yesterday, and I’m fairly certain that the best sales people will do a little more than that….  but the idea that I can run a MLM business without doing home parties or door to door leaflet drops sounds like a mighty fine idea to me.  I have a huge contact list up and down the UK and I will be able to sell to all of them.

I have researched my upline thoroughly, and am joining up with a team that has a lot of additional sales materials and help for its new presenters.  One of the other good things about  starting at the beginning is you can choose your upline.

Does anybody out there fancy joining me?  If you do, you can sign up here:

If you would just like to receive some more information about Younique, please sign up to this mailing list and I will let you have lots of information and training so that you can decide if you would like to be a customer or a presenter or both.  This does not commit you to joining Younique, it’s just so I can send you more information.

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I’ve worked with a few MLM businesses before, and made all the common mistakes already.

I think that this time I am well set up to cut through the huge volume of sales training that you get in many businesses, and to find my own sales and presenting style with a great set of products. I think I have enough experience of MLM, online selling and business in general to lead you as you get started, and I’m sure I have chosen a great upline team for us all to join up with.

Can I help you to start your UK business too?

What’s the worst that could happen?

Well, at worst I will spend £69 and have a whole box of lovely new makeup for this Christmas season – at best I will have some beautiful gifts for my friends and the start of a whole new income stream, surfing on the wave of the next big thing.

Either way sounds good to me – or anything in between – anybody else with me?


Watch this space……x



What are Habits?

Are you aware of how many habits you actually have? Probably not because a habit is something that is performed in your subconscious. It is only when you are trying to form or break a habit that you become aware of your actions. Habits can be seen as both good and bad things. This will depend on how they are affecting your life.

Some of the habits you already have include all your daily routines such as:

  • Getting dressed
  • Taking a shower
  • Brushing your teeth
  • Knowing exactly how to get to and from work
  • Washing the dishes
  • Doing the laundry
  • Making your bed after getting dressed…and the list goes on

You don’t even have to think about these things as your mind has become accustomed to your routine. Can you imagine the effort needed to actively remember how to do each step of those chores? You would end up completely exhausted at the end of every day.


Problems arise when you are trying to form a new habit. You may want to lose 10 pounds, or you wish that your kitchen counters would be less cluttered. Both of these take time and effort to change. To keep those counters clear you would need to form a habit of finding homes for those items. This might include filing your bills, getting the kids to not leave their homework there. Or having everyone put their dishes into the dishwasher each night.

These are all small things, but you need to set up a routine so you can keep your kitchen clean and tidy. Research indicates that it takes approximately 3 to 4 weeks to form a good habit. This means for one month you need to make a huge effort into performing these tasks. After this time the effort will seem like less, just because your mind is becoming accustomed to your new actions.


If you are trying to form a good habit it can be extremely helpful to have reminders around your home. For example if you want to lose weight to fit into a specific garment, leave your dress or trousers out where it acts as a reminder. Another idea is to write notes and leave them around your home. Maybe on the fridge door, so when you feel like snacking, you are reminded of why you are trying to lose weight.

If exercising is your new habit, remind yourself during the day that when you get home you are going to enjoy a walk. View the task as something enjoyable, not something that has to be done. This way you will look forward to getting home and walking after dinner. Remember that the more you repeat this process the quicker the habit will form.

You can find out more about changing bad habits and acquiring good ones in my new ebook The Incredible Power of Habit   now available in the Mum’s the Boss bookstore

How the World Sees You

Find out How the World sees You – take this 5 minute free test

How the World Sees You – great new book and business concept by Sally Hogshead

Branding expert and leading authority on the science of fascination, Sally Hogshead, is publishing her new book How the World Sees You on July 1.

How the World Sees You

To celebrate the insights gained from a decade of research, she is launching Project Fascination with the goal of showing 100,000 people how their personalities add value.

As a part of this project, she’s given me a special code (BL-MOTIVATINGMUMUK) to share with to you. The first 100 people who use it to take her Fascination Advantage® assessment will receive the assessment for free! This has never been done before, and will only last until September 5.

I took the test, and apparently I am a Rockstar, communicating with Innovation and Passion. This really rings true for me, and the pdf report that Sally sent after I completed the survey had quite a few insights that will definitely help me to use my strengths (and move away from my weak areas) in order to commuicate better.


Archetype Matrix

There are 49 different Personality types – download the Archetype matrix above to see them all.  I was fascinated to read about them all, and I would be very interested to know which one you are. Please use one of my 100 free codes and take the test yourself – it takes about 5 minutes, and i guarantee you will learn something interesting from it.

Simply go to   before September 5th.

Enter code BL-motivatingmumuk in the Book code section and take the test.  Please leave a comment below with your results.

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The best part is, you will trigger a chain reaction—a pay it forward situation. When you take the assessment using BL-motivatingmumuk, you will receive 100 assessments to share with your circle for free, too!

That’s it. Now you’re ready to discover how your personality is custom built for certain situations, and which situations you should learn to avoid. And it only takes 5 minutes (you can even do it on your phone!)

28 questions. 5 minutes. A whole new way to communicate your value.Your Fascination Advantage® Report is the first big step towards knowing how your personality can be heard and remembered in an overcrowded market. Sharing the assessment will help others do the same.

Find everything you need to put this knowledge into practice with your colleagues, close friends and significant other in Sally’s new book, How the World Sees You.


5 Top Tips For Making New Mum Friends – from Mum Amie

by Aimee Foster of Mum Amie

Having a baby changes your life in countless different ways. When I had my daughter almost five years ago, I was wholly unprepared for the raft of life changes I was about to experience. One of the changes that I had not expected was the change to my friendships.

The first of my friends to have a baby, I suddenly had lots of free time during the days. But my friends were all at work. And come the evening when they were available, I was shattered. Plus it became evident that my new baby conversations were at best confusing for my friends and at worst mind numbingly boring.

Susie & I

The first few months of my daughter’s life were incredibly lonely for me, mainly because I spent most of my time alone with her. I was craving some good conversation. It became clear to me that I needed to find some mum friends with similar schedules to me– for friendship, advice, support and fun.

At Mum Amie, we recently conducted a survey about Mum friendships and the results confirmed my own experiences – 66% of those surveyed had at times found motherhood to be a lonely experience. While 82% thought it was important to have mum friends, 44% said that they did not find it easy to actually meet other mums. We created Mum Amie to help mums connect with each other easily, because I know how important those resulting friendships are.

Almost five years on from the birth of my first child, I now have a wonderful network of mum friends. But it didn’t happen overnight. Here are a few things I learned along the way:

  1. Just Do It!You have to get out there and meet people, they won’t come to you. I know how much of an ordeal it is to leave the house with a new baby and believe me I spent many a day stuck inside because I couldn’t be bothered to get dressed, get the baby dressed and get together all of the baby paraphernalia I needed whilst making sure I timed the outing around her feeds. BUT, if you don’t leave your house that often you will find it incredibly difficult to make new friends (you can meet friends online but you will have to go out and meet them face-to-face eventually).
  2. Find Places To GoLocal parenting websites have wonderful resources detailing places you can go with your kids. Toddler groups, bumps and babies groups, children’s centres and libraries are all places frequented by mothers (and some fathers) who are looking to make new friends. We found that 78% of mums are always looking to meet other mums when they are out and about – so you’re in good company. You could also join a class such as baby music or baby massage. If you work full time, there normally groups on Saturday mornings run by other full time working mums plus plenty of weekend activities available for children. Visit Whats On4LittleOnes and Netmums for a comprehensive list of classes and things to do in your area.
  3. Once You’ve Found Somewhere With New Mums – Start the Conversation!I would describe myself as quite shy when surrounded by new people and it took me a while to realise that if I wanted to make new friends, I would need to speak up! Baby groups, toddler groups and classes can be daunting when you’re new to them, especially if it seems like everyone already knows each other.

    Be smiley, say ‘hi’ to people and start up a conversation by saying something complimentary about their child e.g. ‘Wow I love your daughter’s shoes’. Once you break the ice by talking about little Olivia’s shoes you can move on to more interesting stuff!

    Another thing to bear in mind is that if you go to a baby or toddler group and don’t find the other mums to be friendly; don’t give up on that particular group. If you go a second time, there will probably be different people there who you might strike up conversation with. And once you’ve been four or five times, you’re a regular and you can help other new people to integrate.

  4. Once You’ve Started A Conversation – Close the Deal!So you’ve been chatting away for a while. Make sure you don’t just walk away without following up (if you want to of course). Exchange phone numbers or arrange to meet next week at the same group or somewhere else.
  5. Go OnlineOnly 18% of mums we surveyed had made friends online but this is actually where I had most success. I posted a notice on a local parenting website and had many replies. Of the twenty or so people I met, four are now lifelong friends (two of them were bridesmaids at my wedding).

    Whenever, I met a new mum from the internet we always  joked about how similar the experience was to online dating (and so the idea for Mum Amie was born). I did have to meet quite a lot of people to find the mums that are now my close friends but it was more than worth it.

Meeting mums online is great, but it can be quite hit and miss. I met a lot of people that were nice but that I just didn’t gel with. Mum Amie can help you here as we match your profiles with the profiles of other mums based on what is important to you.

Whether you are a single mum looking to meet other single mums or you have a child with a disability and you are looking to meet other mums of children with a disability, we can help! So you have more chance of meeting a mum with similar interests and circumstances to you from the word go. And the best bit is, it’s totally free.


Throughout your quest to make new mum friends, keep in mind that it can take time. You won’t develop a network of mums straight away. But finding other women to share the experience of motherhood with is crucial for your wellbeing, so keep at it and you will get there eventually!


Mum Amie has just launched in July 2014. Mums can sign up for free at and start meeting mum friends straight away. You can also find Mum Amie on Facebook  and Twitter

Aimee Foster is co-founder and co-director of Mum Amie and mum to 4 year old Susie and 4 week old Freddy.

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Mumpreneur Profile: Jackie Newman of Lilyrose

Jackie Newman of Lilyrose had an idea for an original business after searching for a memento for her Dad and not finding what she wanted.  But she needed the confidence to get out there and start it.  Read her inspiring story… Continue reading

Living your Dream: Journey to the Centre of the Earth

When you were a child did you have big ambitions as to what you were going to be?  Did you have big amazing dreams of being a sports superstar, or an astronaut, a pilot, or the doctor that discovered the cure for cancer?  Did you have places you wanted to go and things you wanted to do before real life took over?


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Well I am here now to tell you to never give up on all those dreams no matter how far fetched.  Yes you may be a suburban mum of two, running a small business and doing your daily grind to make ends meet (well I am anyway!) But amazing things can still happen if you keep your dreams alive. Continue reading

Thinking Outside the Box – How to Succeed at Direct Sales

Paula Gorry, Business Development Manager, Stampin’ Up! UK explains why direct selling is proving popular with mums and offers some top tips to make your direct sales business a success.

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Recent statistics show just 58 per cent of mums whose youngest child is between three and five go to work, compared to Europe’s 64 per cent average.[1]

Faced with soaring childcare costs, it is easy to understand why many mums feel they are being priced out of returning to work.  Parents are now looking to other options, outside of the standard 9-5, to boost their income.  One alternative that’s proving particularly popular is direct selling. Continue reading

Goal Setting for Children

While many adults set goals and New Year’s Resolutions not many children attempt to do this. Why not help your children set goals or resolutions for the coming year?

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There is no reason why your child cannot set a goal and this is a great habit for them to get into. Their goal could be something as simple as reading one book each month or learning how to print their name by their 4th birthday. Other goals could be to learn how to tie their shoes or even to help mum in the kitchen at dinner time.

Getting your children into the habit of setting goals and reaching them will help them in all areas of their lives. They will learn it is possible to set a goal and reach it and that this process can actually be a fun one. Achieving a goal they have set themselves can be very exciting and motivational for children of all ages, especially if there is a reward involved….

You could always make your child’s goal relate to yours in some way or other.  By doing this, everyone in the family can be working on similar things. For example you may want to exercise more so why not involve your kids too? Help them decide what type of exercise or sport they would like to participate in. Family sports include things like skating, cycling, walking and running. Or you could all sign up for a self defence class.

Once your child has decided on their new goal help them write it down and create a date for it to be achieved. Try not to make the decision for them, give them ideas and suggestions but let them make the final choice.

Even very young children can set a goal for themselves, whether it is just cleaning their room or learning to get dressed without any help. Be available to give them help when it is needed, but allow them to try and figure out how to reach their own goals.

You should encourage your children to set a goal that can be achieved in a relatively short time frame. Getting them to learn how to tie up their own shoelaces by spring would be a good example. Goal dates could be based around the changing of the seasons, based on their birthday or for the start of your annual family holiday.

Children have a much shorter attention span than adults, so it is important that you are there to give them regular encouragement and support as needed. It may not be necessary for them to work on their goal every single day – maybe putting some time aside at the weekend is sufficient.

Older children can have larger goals, possibly ones where they have to save money in order to get something they have dreamed of owning. Or you may offer to pay half if they save up the other half. This teaches children that they have to work to get things in life. Plus they will value their new item more if they had to spend some of their own cash for it!

Once your child reaches their goal let them know how proud you are of them. Share their success with other family members too. Then encourage them to set a new goal. Goals can be set around personal achievements, the desire for a new toy or wanting to join a new sports team or take up a new hobby.

If their goal is a little harder for them to achieve, help them write out a plan of smaller steps so that they can actually reach their goals. Remember to help them learn to enjoy their journey by making it fun.

Do you set goals with your children?  Please let us know what goals your children are working towards by leaving a comment below.

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Where Does Creativity Come From?

Are you making plans for your business next year?  Do you fancy doing something “original and different” but you just don’t know what.  Sometimes it can be really hard to find that creative spark – that flash of inspiration.  You may look around you and see other people doing it all the time.  You may wonder “why are some people creative and not me?”

So where exactly does creativity come from – and more importantly, how can you go out and find yourself some?



Artists and poets have for centuries talked about ‘the muse’. The muse is the source of inspiration. It has often been seen as some kind of dark supernatural force, but actually it can be anyone around you or something as mundane as a photograph or a walk in the park. If you can identify your muse and turn to it when you need inspiration, this will help you unlock your creative flow.

Who is Your Muse?

Take a minute to think of the people you know. Who makes you feel inspired? Is there someone you chat with over coffee and then you find yourself rushing home full of creative energy? If there is, this person is your muse.

You don’t need to have only one. Artist Pablo Picasso considered every woman he had a relationship with his muses. It may be that simply going out and socialising is a good way to get inspired. Your muse may even be a stranger you have a conversation with at a bus stop.

Favourite Things

Your muse may not be a person at all. It could be an object or a work of art. Music is especially powerful for inspiring some people. You might have a favorite song or album that gets you in the mood to create. It may be a photograph or a book of poetry that you like. Survey your house and ask yourself, ‘What things here make me want to be creative?’

You may also find that looking at similar projects to your own gets you inspired. If you’re trying to design a website, for example, get online and look at the sites of other similar businesses. You may get a great idea.

Follow Thought Leaders

There may be a person you don’t know who serves as your muse. Many people find thought leaders in their industry to be inspiring. By following them and keeping up with their work, you can get inspiration from them. A quick trawl through social media, facebook and twitter, or reading som

e relevant blogs can sometimes be enough to start your flow.

Who Needs a Muse?

Actually, the muse concept is perhaps a bit overrated.

Creative people have always had an almost spiritual belief that their creativity comes from outside themselves. It’s as though inspiration blesses you suddenly when you don’t expect it and then disappears again. What people fail to recognize is that hard work, practice and habit play much bigger parts in the creative process. If you get into a routine of creative work, you’ll find that the muse drops by much more often.


Do you believe that creativity can be learned, practiced and improved?  Would you like to work on your own creativity and see where it leads you.  Download our free report Creativity in Action or take a look at our 10 week Creativity E-Course